HOW TO PROPOSE
Did you know that men have been proposing with rings (to signify engagement) for centuries and centuries? In fact, the first documented proposal dates all the way back to 1477 when Archduke Maximilian of Austria proposed to his main squeeze (aka Mary of Burgundy).
But even though millions of men have been successful with this endeavor for basically all of time, proposing to your girl or significant other takes more than just slipping a ring over the finger. In order to ensure your marriage proposal is a success (and a story worth telling), follow the tips listed below in this how to propose guide.
1. Do not ask the question if you do not know the answer
If you have no clue what your girlfriend will say once you propose, do not ask - at least for now. A wedding proposal should be a question that you already have an answer for. By the time you get to that point where you feel you want to spend the rest of your life with her, you should have had feeler discussions on weddings. You do not want to potentially embarrass her (or yourself) by asking a question that you don't know the answer to.
2. Find the perfect ring
If all indicators are that she will say yes, great! The next task is shopping for the perfect engagement ring. Finding a ring does not have to be a horrendous experience, you can turn the task into an enjoyable exercise by following the steps below.
3. Hide the evidence
So far, so good! You have the ring, and, thus far, you've been able to keep your big purchase a complete surprise; however, in order to ensure that the proposal is the complete shocker you hope for, you need to keep it hidden. This includes any potential paper trail that she has easy access to: receipts, bank accounts, insurance papers, etc. Also, remember to be your regular self. Try not to jump whenever she comes into the room or be overly cautious over a certain area of the house. Chances are, if she never goes into your nightstand, there's no reason to freak every time she walks by it. You will certainly set off her alarms.
4. Consider the timing
It is crucial that you get the timing right. This is something only you can work out. While it is impossible to say the perfect time for a proposal, it is vital that you do the proposal when both of you are not rushed, and when you are ready, sorted and calm. Once you have planned your proposal to the last detail, then you will know you are ready. Some of the things you should keep in mind include:
5. Ask permission
If her parents are old-fashioned and your fiancée will not find it sexist or offensive, go ahead and ask her parents' permission. The gesture not only suggests that you respect her and her family, but that you will always be considerate of the family (and of tradition). However, everything depends on your partner and her family.
6. Make a plan
Be thoughtful and creative as you consider the details of the proposal day...down to the last detail. Make sure that you select a special time and place, and that the proposal is personalized enough to make it an event that focuses on her. As an example, if your girl loves to be the center of attention, then a big to-do proposal with a lot of people looking on will be perfect. On the other hand, if your soon-to-be bride is an introvert, you'll want something a bit more private and personal.
7. Know what to say
If you are about to propose, it is vital that you practice. Practice how you will ask, the reasons why she is the perfect match for you and why you want to spend a lifetime by her side. Practicing will help you avoid getting tongue-tied when the special moment arrives. Remember to say the words you want before you go down on one knee, because after that, the only words she is likely to remember are, "Will you marry me?"
8. Clue in close friends and family
Make a decision on whether you would like to propose to her alone or in front of friends and family. If you plan to include friends and family, it would help tremendously if you let them know well in advance so they can make every arrangement needed to be there for your special moment. Last-minute notifications are sure to leave people scrambling or left out, especially if you are planning to meet them later.
9. Look the part
Before the proposal, make sure she looks the part, but do not tell her what the real event is. This is a special occasion and it deserves to be as picture perfect as possible. For example, if you're taking her on a hike to propose at the top of a mountain, consider buying her a fun and coordinating outfit. Obviously, in this situation, she isn't going to be decked out in heels.
10. Back-up plans
Life has a tendency to get in the way. In order to ensure that the day goes on as planned (and without a hitch), make sure that you have a plan B and even a plan C ready. Murphy's law tells us that what can go wrong, will go wrong. Because of this, It is best to be prepared for all possible scenarios.
Remember, as you prepare to propose, originality is always welcomed, but be careful not to go overboard. Stay true to who you both are as people to ensure the proposal fits your personalities. If possible, have someone record the proposal and take pictures. Finally, calm your nerves. It would be wholly unromantic if you would end up st-st-st-stuttering out of fear.