The 8 Things You Need To Do Once It Happens
Just Got Engaged?!
HERE'S WHAT TO DO NEXT
You just accepted his proposal and you couldn’t be more thrilled. Maybe you’ve been expecting a ring or maybe it came as a complete surprise. Either way, congratulations on embarking on an amazing new chapter in your life. But as the shine of the proposal subsides, you may be wondering what the heck you do next.
Depending on what kind of wedding you want, the list might be short or very long and intricate. Everything is very manageable, however, especially when you have the basics covered.
1. Let the world know
The first thing you want to do is share the news with your friends and loved ones. Call those closest to you — family, your best friend, and so on, but feel free to make a general announcement via Facebook or Instagram for your extended circle. Not only will an early announcement let them share in your excitement and put an upcoming wedding on the calendar in the back of their minds, it might prompt some celebrations. Everyone likes a little preliminary partying.
2. Get your ring sized and insured
Get your new engagement ring sized before showing it off to family and friends. The better it fits, the better it looks. The jeweler your fiance bought the piece from should offer a free fitting, but if not, take a look at reviews online before picking one. It’s also always a good idea to insure your engagement ring. Life happens, and you want the ease of mind that comes with knowing you’re covered if God forbid the ring is lost.
3. Set budgets for the engagement party, wedding and reception
Choosing a comfortable budget early on will save you from headaches and potential disappointments later. Avoid dreaming about Maroon 5 performing at the reception if it’s just not financially feasible. Evaluate whether your family will cover the expenses of the wedding and reception and how much they’re willing to spend, how much you might need to spend of your own money and how much his family is willing to contribute. Knowing how much total you can spend is critical when you start evaluating venues, dress options and accommodations and whether you’ll hire a wedding planner or go DIY.
4. Meet with a wedding planner even if you plan to go DIY
You should meet with a wedding planner at least once even if you’re going DIY. You will almost certainly learn something from this initial consultation, whether it’s the basics of staging a large, orchestrated event or that you need to account for something you previously had no knowledge of. Some wedding planners offer a free initial consultation, while others charge a fee. If you find the former, great, but even if you pay a little bit for the first meeting, it’ll be worth it. Wedding planners are experts, after all, and any insight you can gleen from one will help make your big day a big success.
5. Post for professional engagement photos
Unless you have an accomplished portrait photographer in your life, it’s best to find a pro. They’ll be able to identify nuances in your chosen setting, its lighting and the composition of the photo that a layman will miss. Most often they will provide editing services so you can tweak the look of your photos after they’ve been shot. Remember: these photos will be the first impression of your upcoming marriage for many, so you want them to be the best they can be.
6. Plan your engagement party and send invites
This item may seem a bit out of order, but the above items are simply a higher priority, and some of the experience you’ll gain up to this point will help you successfully plan and host an engagement party. Along with the budget for the event, you’ll want to choose a venue that’s conveniently located for your MVPs. Oh, and a theme. Don’t stress about that last part, though. After all, the theme can simply be you and your fiance. Collect photos from your relationship to decorate a table at the party if you choose that route.
7. Pick your dress before you plan your wedding
Your dress will be the center around which your wedding and reception revolve, so pick it first. After you’ve found the perfect gown, choosing decorations and making color choices will be much simpler. You will have something permanent against which to compare everything else, so seeing what is complementary and what clashes will be easy.
8. Craft a preliminary guest list
You may not have chosen a venue yet, but working on your guest list early will inform that later decision. Once you know how many people you’ll need to accommodate, you’ll have a better idea how big the space needs to be and what you need the price per head to be. Sit down with your partner when you begin writing out the list. Start with family, then move to close friends and expand out from there. Once you start hitting friends you haven’t seen for years or maybe only see once a year or so, you’ll know when to stop — or when to start crossing names off.
Stay tuned for future posts on planning your wedding that go beyond these initial steps. In the meantime, let us know which topics you’d like covered in the comments or on our Facebook page! We’d love to hear from you.